Have a team name.
One of the best pieces of advice we got when we got married: Have a team name.
It simply helps us remember an important key – we are on the same team. We’re teammates, not opponents. And when things start to feel like we’re opponents… well, it’s totally what we talked about last time: the Enemy just loves that. If he can get us to take each other down – oh how easy his job becomes! If he can get us to be destructive towards each other … nit-pick at each other … say critical, inaccurate things about each others motives … have a negative, hurtful perception of the other… if he can get us to help him with his job, he is a happy camper. If he can get us to act more like we’re on his team than our spouse’s – yikes.
But the truth is this:
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. ~ Ephesians 6:12
Our enemy is not our spouse. Our enemy is sin and Satan.
And the truth is this:
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. ~ Ecclesiastes 4:12
There is such strength in a united husband, wife, and the Lord! Those three strands united as a team have such alliance, solidarity, and strength!
So we commit to
Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. ~ 1 Peter 5:8
As we stay alert – committed to our unity as a team and focused on trying to figure out how as a team we can move forward, we move through situations with unity and strength. With courage and fortitude, we defeat inklings of accusation or blame, and we keep the devil from a foothold!
Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. ~ Mark 10:9
Amen!! In the strength and solidity of the Lord, commitment to a team mindset enables wonderful victory!
Thanks to Kate McElwee for the very fun bride and groom shot! www.katemcelweephotography.com